"It was the best of times and it was the worse of times" is the opening line to a very famous Dickens novel, but if I didn't know any better I would think he was writing about a wedding. This endeavor of planning a wedding that Ben, a brave man mentioned in Silbs blog, and I started less then a year ago has been one of many ups and even some downs. We have been lucky enough to have the wonderful support of our family and many of our friends. However, even with all their support and their attempt to make it a perfect day, there are some that have forgotten that on October 21st for 24 hours, technically even less, it is not about them.
At the start of the planning I was very aware that not everyone on our thirteen plus page guest list would be able to attend and we are very thankful for that. However, there is a list within that list and those on that hidden list are the ones whose presence at the big day is oh so important to Ben and I. As we have been getting closer and closer to the big day, did I mention it is October 21st, we have been informed that there are some on this hidden list that will not be attending. I am very aware that there are reasons beyond one's control that may not allow them to attend the event of the century, my wedding which is on October 21st, but some of our dear ones have no excuse except they do not feel like either making the effort, the sacrifice or are little to self absorbed. They have seemed to have forgotten that on October 21st it is about the bride and groom, it is about Ben and I, that it is not about them.
P.S. I mentioned the date of the wedding numerous of times in the hope that it would help my father, silbs blog, remember when the big day is.